GASLIGHTING - When you can become the victim, like me, through social media

started, written, on December 12, 2020, update on February 6, 2021

" GASLIGHTING abuse.

When the other one makes you think you're crazy."

What you will see, presented with clear evidence in this article (and I have three women, including two young women who presented my models at the fashion show, and one, " my friend" sent by them to become my friend, the one from Austria; I wrote about her in another article and there will be another one, with evidence), is part of CM and RFC's show in 2015, made with these people that they used without me knowing what I know at present; anyway, I knew that it was the evil done by them, that they are made by them to write what they wrote (and here it is about gaslighting through these people, because they, as you can see today, always acted through other people) but I had no idea what they were doing; that, in fact, it was a circus (by the way, read my blog article, THE CLOWN, and you will see the picture of THE CLOWN that I will put, to see the show directed by them, even here in New York, in the neighbor's yard), meant to convince some, to give them illegal access to the USA. This is the first REAL example of the person put by RFC and CM to turn reality, that is, real gaslighting.

In this article I present one of the models that were hired by Zaza Club and me for the two fashion shows that I made in 2015, as well as their way of action through this young woman: gaslight. Inside the article you will find inserted, in quotation marks, whole phrases from an article written by a psychologist on the topic of gaslight, precisely to read the real opinion and an informed and objective opinion about what gaslight means. Probably, some of you haven't heard of this term and you don't know what it actually means, just like me, until, also online, I've actually found out what it is. The full article can be found in the Romanian language section, where, I put a link to the author's blog; and also you can retrieve and distribute it (like this article, by the way) from my Facebook page.

Clear explanations, next to the pictures displayed on the blog. Come and read them. I will also translate conversations between me and her, so that you understand the difference in language and behavior;

between normal and gaslight, on her (in fact, their) part.

For my part you will see the deep disappointment that she let herself be used by these people (at that time I only knew that it was RFC, the hacker who hurt me and I began to understand that it was directly involved in my personal life; from 2016 I also found out

about CM, but this is another article.

Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse through manipulation, where by the abuser disillusions his victim by making her feel unstable, unsure of her own reality or even crazy. The term "gaslighting" comes from the film of the same name "Gas Lighting" from 1940 and even so is used in clinical and specialized literature.

This technique of psychological manipulation is practiced by the abuser on the victim over a long period of time, having the effect of losing the victim's confidence on her own ability to distinguish what is real from illusion. In this way, the abuser ("gaslighter" in terms of specialty) acquires full power and control over the victim, because it puts all confidence only in his perception."

All the explanations I'm giving here are seen and understood today, at the present moment, completely different from what I thought, then. At that time, I had no way of knowing that everything is a virtual show, graphic, writings, visual, in which were used permanently surrogates, as I know today. The first picture, the one on the left, is the picture I posted on Facebook. The one on the right, is the picture she posted on Instagram: the same presentation, exactly the same lingerie, only that, filmed and posed from behind, deliberately put to see that cameraman who looks like hair color and height with CM and wears the shirt registered STAFF U NIGHTS, that is, the name of the show from UTV, in which the video of this fashion show was broadcast. Pictures and videos, in another article. So, on the meaning of everyone, now, CM, aka the cameraman, was the one who was filming the model in action, (aka me), who did not know that it was filmed and photographed, I mean, exactly THE TRUTH! I didn't know anything about what they were doing! Moreover, now that we know what the status of the numbers is, it's not at all random that number 5 of the Instagram profile name, current, my nephew, &aka, RFC. If we make an analogy with the well-known perfume of Coco Chanel, (famous Parisian fashion designer) NO.5, already solved "enigma"! But, we continue our foray through pictures and screenshots.

"If you have a JOB where you need CERTAIN QUALITIES (e.g. CREATIVITY, INSPIRATION, etc.) the abuser will tell you that you could be a "wonderful" person, but that it is a pity that you lack exactly those qualities... so as to make you lose faith in yourself."

"This brainwashing process is carried out gradually, so the victim is not aware of what is happening.

The people who manipulate using this technique are people who in turn have mental disorders: abusers, psychopaths, sociopaths, dictators, narcissists, leaders of different cultures or self-proclaimed "guru"."

"They use and attack what is dearest or closer to you. He's going to attack you right through that context that he knows is important to you"

why did I put these pictures? to see that she alone has posted on her public instagram profile, both the same picture, as well as other pictures of my fashion shows, including the one in which she is dressed in green and gold fabrics (and no color relevance; I did NOT make my collections and I chose my colors only depending on the materials I liked and my inventiveness , without the obsessive-sick interpretations of anyone, which I did not know anyway) in which her breasts are seen exactly as in the pink body that, about which you will see what was put by RFC and CM to write. Moreover, it is clear how she gave like to the picture posted by me (the one in which she appears dressed in pink body, the one about which, after a year, you will see what they ordered her to write, that is exactly GASLIGHT) in October 2015.

"praise you out of the blue or throw positive baits just to confuse you even more"

"This brainwashing process is carried out gradually, so the victim is not aware of what is happening. The people who manipulate using this technique are people who in turn have mental disorders: abusers, psychopaths, sociopaths, dictators, narcissists, leaders of different cultures or self-proclaimed "guru".

Gaslighter abusers use the following techniques:

They lie with detachment and impertinence. It's an obvious lie. You're aware of this and yet I do it by looking you in the eye. Why am I like this? Because their purpose is for you to become confused. Seeing the man in front of you support his argument or story so strongly, you start to wonder if he's actually right."

These pictures are her posts, on her Instagram account, from my fashion shows and, the one in which she appears in red lace and black tulle (in which you also see her breasts, so she was not at all ashamed to post on her own public Instagram page), is taken entirely from my Facebook page, as I posted. So she accepted and was more than happy that I put those pictures of her, both on my Facebook page and on my Instagram page; moreover, I wrote an article in a magazine whose director is one of my friends with whom I collaborated very well on the advertising side (I even helped her to get a big advertising contract at the opening of a mall, in the city center, where I had shops; I recommended the advertising agency of my friends where she was director, and there, and on Radio 21 Cluj, to the owner of that mall, and they made advertising contract with her and their agency, on my recommendation) in which I put pictures of only a few models, and she was one of them (and was very happy that I chose her to appear in the magazine, just like another one, used by them for the same purpose; you will see).

"They use and attack what is dearest or closer to you. He's going to attack you right through that context that he knows is important to you. If you have a JOB where you need CERTAIN QUALITIES (e.g. CREATIVITY, INSPIRATION, etc.) the abuser will tell you that you could be a "wonderful" person, but that it is a pity that you lack exactly those qualities... so as to make you lose faith in yourself."

In this picture that I put individually, separately, but you will also find it in the group of screenshot that I made the conversation with her (the one in which she was put by the RFC, -I knew of him and his wife that they are the ones who copy me and hurt me, at that moment), you will see how they try to hit me, in my entire career (that's after they were the ones who abused me, they were spying on me illegally, already in the USA and they didn't let me work and make a career in New York), by the simple phrase, quote: "and your job is, after all, a picture".

So, quoting her, in fact them, RFC and CM (that it's all their monstrous mind that have build something like this, stealing ideas from the book "Pitesti phenomenon" and the phenomenon GASLIGHT), I ask you and them, thieves of lives and ideas: taking pictures is a job? to write articles or books, what is it, a job? create clothes, what is it, a job? to present them publicly through pictures taken by the photographer, what is it, a job? what she did, presenting fashion, as a model, is it a job?

If you answered yes to all these questions, then you thieves know very well that what you do is NOT a job, but a theft; and what I've always done is called JOB, PUBLIC, REAL and LEGAL!

Which is very important in this screenshot, it's what I sent her after she wrote to me (on their command) that my job is just a picture. You will see WHY is very, very important! First of all, that message to her, which is the video of the fashion show, someone deleted it from my messages (it's not the first case, because they do whatever they want in my phone, on my messages), just to seem something else than reality. You'll see in the conversations below and understand what it's all about. I am very happy that I found this screenshot to present it as proof of gaslight and the lies applied by them constantly in my life.

"praise you out of the blue or throw positive baits just to confuse you even more.

Think of this person who constantly makes you feel worthless, who criticizes you or scolds you, on the reason that you are not someone he can rely on: out of the blue, he praises you for something you have done well (usually a thing in his interest). Beyond the purpose of confusing you, this action could be like rewarding a behavior of yours, favorable to it. In other words, manipulation by reward, to exercise, again, control over you.

They are aware that the state of confusion destabilizes the victim."

"People need stability so they can be relaxed and comfortable. And that, over time, gives them confidence. Abusers are aware of this, so they'll make sure, they will take care to break lose from the root all that means stability. They'll make you doubt seemingly trivial, banal things, then serious things, to the side of doubting yourself as being. Apparently, your only connection to "stability" remains the abuser. When they reach their goal, the one to make you lose your confidence in yourself altogether, they will have gained total control over you, because the only person you will feel you can still rely on will be him."

"They lie and it shows you that, in fact, you're the one who's lying. They do this so often that you start looking for arguments and ways to defend yourself, and that distracts you from their initial behavior (the one they accuse you of)."

"They turn people against you.

In general, abusers of this type need cover. So they'll see to it that they discredit you in front of anyone who might expose them.

Gaslighter abusers are aces in the art of manipulation and will take care to convince those people they need, to be on their side. Some will use mercy, making the victim in front of others, presenting a story in which they are the ones who suffer and those who are very difficult, because you have problems (you are crazy, you are drugged, you have problems with nerves or alcohol). The abuser will put the victim in the head that the others are judging her and that they agree with him, so the victim will begin to behave as such in the presence of other people. The victim will shut up and soon isolate herself. So the abuser thinks no one on the outside is going to find out what's really going on.

they tell you, in one form or another, that everyone else is fake.

Gaslighter abusers make sure to get you away from all the people who might help you or share what you're going through. Their interest is to gain complete control over you.

If you are constantly told that you cannot trust anyone from the outside, out of desperation to have someone, to feel safe, you will turn to him too – the abuser. Besides, if someone dares to tell you that something is wrong, you will vehemently deny it and defend your only "trusted man"."

"It takes you down in time. The most significant thing about gaslight psychological abuse is that it occurs gradually over a longer period of time.

A lie today, a lie tomorrow, a lack of congruence here, one there, a word thrown around... day by day, and then everything starts to grow. Even the smartest and most intelligent people can be drawn into the story of such abusers, especially if it all starts as a love story."

"He vehemently denies that he said or did anything, despite the evidence you have.

He told you he was going to do something, which he didn't just do afterwards, but he denies that he ever said he would.

The goal remains the above: for you to become confused. Gradually, still subjected to such situations, a human begins to doubt his own reality.

The more often the abuser uses this technique, the more confused the victim becomes and begins to lose confidence in his own perception and reality.

By becoming aware of the presence of these behaviors in the people around you, you will be able to identify attempts at psychological abuse in advance so that you do not fall into the abuser's net."

Note:

all the pictures belong to me and are taken by me; screenshots which is related, that concern MY LIFE and this unwanted event that took place without my consent, and have direct connection to what happened, are made by me and, I am more than entitled to use them, because I have NOT being asked, nor have I been asked for consent for a whole world to enter with boots in MY PRIVATE LIFE.

also, all the texts on this blog are written by me, where I quoted, I indicated the source, the author and even I put the link where the case and I found something like this. I do not authorize anyone, nor to publish these texts, except the full distribution of the article from here, from my blog, on social media, or, with my explicit consent; neither to be inspired, nor to make films or to write books about my life.

Whoever does this, without my consent, will be sued, according to legal rights.

Anyone wishing to publish a book or make a film about my life is asked to contact me at the email address: oanastavilanewyork@gmail.com, here, or on the social pages, all of which are with my real name.

Romanian Language

Ceea ce veti vedea, prezentat cu dovezi clare in acest articol (si am trei femei, dintre care doua tinere care au prezentat modelele mele la fashion show, iar una, "friend" trimisa de ei sa devina prietena mea, cea din Austria), este parte din show ul lui CM si RFC in anul 2015, facut cu aceste persoane pe care ei le-au folosit, fara ca eu sa stiu ceea ce stiu, in prezent; oricum, am stiut ca e raul facut de ei, ca ele sunt puse de ei sa scrie ceea ce au scris (si aici este vorba despre gaslighting prin aceste persoane, deoarece ei, dupa cum se vede si in ziua de azi, intotdeauna au actionat prin alte persoane) dar NU aveam niciun habar de ceea ce ei faceau ; ca, de fapt, era un circ (apropo de circ, cititi articolul meu de pe blog, THE CLOWN, si veti vedea si poza cu THE CLOWN pe care o s-o pun, ca sa vedeti spectacolul regizat de ei, chiar si aici, la New York, in curtea vecinilor), menit sa convinga pe unii, sa le dea acces ilegal in USA. Acesta este primul exemplu REAL de persoana pusa RFC si CM sa intoarca realitatea, adica gaslighting adevarat.

In acest articol va prezint una dintre fotomodelele care au fost angajate de Zaza Club si de mine pentru cele doua prezentari de moda pe care le-am facut in anul 2015, precum si modalitatea lor de actiune prin aceasta tanara: gaslight. In interiorul articolului veti gasi inserat, in ghilimele, fraze intregi dintr-un articol scris de un psiholog pe tema gaslight, tocmai pentru a citi opinia reala si o parere avizata si obiectiva despre ceea ce inseamna gaslight. Probabil, unii dintre dvs, nu ati auzit de acest termen si nici nu stiti ce inseamna de fapt, exact ca si mine, pana ce, tot din on line, am aflat de fapt ce este. Articolul integral il gasiti la sectiunea de limba romana, unde, am pus link catre blogul autoarei; si, de asemenea, il puteti prelua si distribui (ca si acest articol, de altfel) de pe pagina mea de facebook. Explicatii clare, in dreptul pozelor expuse pe blog. vino sa le citesti. Voi face si traducerea conversatiilor intre mine si ea, ca sa intelegi diferenta in limbaj si comportament; dintre normal si gaslight, din partea ei, de fapt din partea lor. Din partea mea veti vedea profunda dezamagire ca ea s-a lasat folosita de aceste persoane (la acea vreme stiam doar ca e vorba de RFC, hackerul care imi facea rau si incepeam sa inteleg ca intervenea direct in viata mea personala; din 2016 am aflat si de CM, dar asta e alt articol.

De ce am pus aceste poze? pentru a vedea ca ea singura a postat pe profilul ei public de instagram, atat aceeasi poza, cat si alte poze din my fashion shows, inclusiv cea in care e imbracata in desuuri de culoare verde si auriu (si NU are nicio relevanta culoare; eu NU mi-am facut colectiile si Nu mi-am ales culorile decat in functie de materialele care mi-au placut si de inventivitatea mea, fara interpretarile obsesiv-bolnavicioase ale nimanui, de care oricum nu stiam) in care i se vad sanii exact ca si in body ul de culoare roz care, despre care veti vedea ce a fost pusa de catre RFC si CM sa scrie. Mai mult, se vede clar cum ea a dat like to pozei postate de mine (cea in care ea apare imbracata in body roz, cel despre care, dupa un an, veti vedea ce ei i-au ordonat sa scrie, adica exact GASLIGHT) in octombrie 2015.

Aceste poze sunt postarile ei, pe contul de Instagram, din prezentarile mele de moda si, cea in care apare in desuu din dantela rosie si tul negru (in care de asemenea i se vad sanii, deci nu i-a fost deloc rusine sa posteze pe propria ei pagina publica de Instagram), este preluat in intregime de pe pagina mea de Facebook, asa cum eu am postat. Deci, ea a acceptat si a fost mai mult decat fericita ca eu am pus acele poze cu ea, atat pe pagina mea de Facebook, cat si pe cea de Instagram; mai mult, eu am scris un articol intr-o revista a carei director este una din prietenele mele cu care am colaborat foarte bine pe partea de publicitate (chiar am si ajutat-o sa obtina un contract mare de publicitate la deschiderea unui mall in centrul orasului, acolo unde am avut si eu magazine; am recomandat agentia de publicitate a prietenilor mei unde ea era directoare, si acolo, si la Radio 21 Cluj, patronului mall ului respectiv, si ei au facut contract de publicitate cu ea si agentia lor, la recomandarea mea) in care am pus poze doar cu cateva fotomodele, iar ea a fost una dintre ele (si a fost foarte fericita ca am ales-o pentru a aparea in revista, exact ca si o alta, folosita de ei tot in acelasi scop; veti vedea).

In aceasta poza pe care am pus-o individual, separat, dar o veti regasi si in grupul de screenshot pe care l-am facut conversatiei avute cu ea (cea in care ea a fost pusa de catre RFC, -stiam de el si de nevasta lui ca ei sunt cei care ma copiaza si imi fac rau, la MOMENT respectiva), veti vedea cum incearca sa loveasca in mine, in toata cariera mea (asta dupa ce ei au fost cei care m-au abuzat, ma spionau ilegal, deja in USA si NU m-au lasat sa lucrez si sa imi fac o cariera in New York), prin simpla fraza, citez:" si jobul tau e, pana la urma, o poza"

Deci, citand-o pe ea, de fapt pe ei, RFC si CM (ca totul e mintea lor monstruoasa care au "conceput" asa ceva, furand idei din cartea "fenomenul Pitesti" si fenomenul GASSLIGHT), va intreb pe dvs si pe ei, hotii de vieti si idei: a face poze este un job? a scrie articole sau carti, ce este, un job? a crea haine, ce este, un job? a le prezenta public prin poze facute de fotograf, ce este, un job? ceea ce ea a facut, prezentand moda, ca fotomodel, este un job? Daca ati raspuns cu da la toate aceste intrebari, atunci voi, hotilor, stiti foarte bine ca ceea ce faceti voi NU este un job, ci este un furt; iar ceea ce eu am facut intotdeauna se cheama JOB, PUBLIC, REAL si LEGAL!

Ceea ce este foarte important in acest screenshot, este ceea ce i-am trimis eu ei, dupa ce ea mi-a scris (la comanda lor) ca job ul meu nu este decat o poza. veti vedea si de ce. In primul rand, acel mesaj care reprezinta video ul prezentarii, cineva l-a sters din mesajele mele, tocmai pentru a parea altceva decat a fost realitatea. veti vedea in conversatiile prezentate mai jos si veti intelege despre ce e vorba.Sunt foarte fericita ca am gasit acest screenshot pentru a-l prezenta ca dovada a gaslight si a minciunilor aplicate de ei constant in viata mea.

"Se folosesc si ataca ce iti este tie mai drag sau mai apropiat. Daca ai un loc de munca la care ai nevoie de anumite calitati (ex.: creativitate, inspiratie, etc.) abuzatorul iti va spune ca ai putea fi o persoana „minunata”, dar ca e pacat ca iti lipsesc exact acele calitati… astfel incat sa te determine sa iti pierzi increderea in tine.

te lauda din senin sau iti arunca momeli pozitive doar pentru a te confuza si mai tare.

Gandeste-te la aceasta persoana care te face in permanenta sa te simti nevaloros, care te critica sau te repede, pe motiv ca nu esti cineva pe care se poate baza: din senin, te lauda pentru un lucru pe care l-ai facut bine (de obicei, un lucru in interesul sau). Dincolo de scopul de a te confuza, aceasta actiune ar putea fi asemanata cu recompensarea unui comportament de-al tau, favorabil lui. Cu alte cuvinte, manipulare prin recompensa, pentru a-si exercita, din nou, controlul asupra ta. Sunt constienti ca starea de confuzie destabilizeaza victima.

Oamenii au nevoie de stabilitate, pentru a putea fi relaxati si pentru a se simti confortabil. Iar asta, in timp, le ofera incredere. Abuzatorii sunt constienti de asta, asadar vor avea grija sa rupa de la radacina tot ce inseamna stabilitate. Te vor face sa te indoiesti de lucruri aparent banale, apoi de lucruri serioase, pana la a te indoi de tine, ca fiinta. Aparent, singura ta conexiune cu „stabilitatea” ramane abuzatorul. Cand isi ating scopul, cel de a te face sa iti pierzi cu totul increderea in tine, vor fi dobandit controlul total asupra ta, deoarece singura persoana pe care tu o sa simti ca te mai poti baza va fi chiar el. Proiecteaza in permanenta. Mint si iti arata ca, de fapt, tu esti cel care minte. Fac acest lucru atat de des, incat tu incepi sa cauti argumente si modalitati de a te apara, iar asta iti distrage atentia de la comportamentul lor initial (cel de care te acuza pe tine).

Intorc oamenii impotriva ta.

In general, abuzatorii de acest tip, au nevoie de acoperire. Asadar vor avea grija sa te discrediteze in fata tuturor persoanelor care i-ar putea deconspira. Abuzatorii „gaslighter” sunt asi in arta manipularii si vor avea grija sa convinga acele persoane de care au nevoie, sa fie de partea lor. Unii se vor folosi de mila, facand-o pe victima in fata celorlalti, prezentand o poveste in care ei sunt cei care sufera si cei carora le este foarte greu, deoarece tu ai probleme (ba esti nebun, ba esti drogat, ba ai probleme cu nervii sau cu alcoolul). Abuzatorul ii va baga victimei in cap ca ceilalti o judeca si ca ii dau lui dreptate, asadar victima va incepe sa se comporte ca atare in prezenta altor oameni. Va tacea si curand se va izola. Astfel ca nimeni din exterior nu va afla ce se intampla, de fapt.

Te doboara in timp. Cel mai marsav lucru la abuzul psihologic de tip gaslight este ca se produce treptat, pe o perioada mai lunga de timp. O minciuna azi, o minciuna maine, o lipsa de congruenta aici, una dincolo, o vorba aruncata aiurea… zi de zi, iar apoi totul incepe sa ia amploare. Pana si cei mai inteligenti si treji oameni pot fi trasi in povestea unor asemenea abuzatori, mai ales daca totul incepe ca o poveste de iubire. Devenind constient(a) de prezenta acestor comportamente la persoanele din jurul tau, vei putea sa identifici tentativele de abuz psihologic din timp, astfel incat sa nu cazi in plasa abuzatorului."

Toate explicatiile pe care le redau aici sunt vazute si intelese azi, la moment actual, complet diferit de ceea ce credeam, atunci. La acea, vreme, NU aveam de unde sa stiu ca totul e un show virtual, grafic, scrieri, vizual, in care se foloseau permanent surogate, asa cum stiu in prezent. Prima poza, cea din stanga, este poza postata de mine pe Facebook. Cea din dreapta, e poza postata de ea pe Instagram: aceeasi prezentare, exact aceeasi lenjerie, doar ca, filmata si pozata din spate, pusa intentionat sa se vada acel cameraman care seamana la culoarea parului si inaltime cu CM si poarta tricoul inscriptionat STAFF U NIGHTS, adica numele emisiunii de la UTV, in care a fost difuzat si videoclipul acestui fashion show. Poze si videoclipuri, intr-un alt articol.

Deci, pe intelesul tuturor, acum, CM, aka cameramanul, era cel care o filma pe fotomodelul in actiune, (aka eu), care NU stia ca este filmata si pozata, adica, exact ADEVARUL! Eu NU am stiut nimic despre ceea ce fac ei! Mai mult, acum ca stim si care e situatia numerelor, NU e deloc intamplator acel numar 5 din numele de profil de Instagram, actual, my nephew, &aka, RFC. Daca mai facem si o analogie cu binecunoscutul parfum al lui Coco Chanel, (celebra creatoare de moda parizianca) NO.5, deja e rezolvata "enigma'! Dar, continuam incursiunea printre poze si screenshots.

Intregul articol AICI: http://alinablagoi.ro/abuzul-de-tip-gaslighting-cand-celalalt-te-face-sa-crezi-ca-esti-nebun/?fbclid=IwAR09d-wXhZv16xzgBySIQB2k8vS1Zm_DlVShTuWMkJ2Zx9JXFXDwOcBrGx8

"Abuzul de tip GASLIGHTING. Cand celalalt te face sa crezi ca esti nebun.

Gaslighting este o forma de abuz psihologic prin manipulare, prin care agresorul isi deziluzioneaza victima facand-o sa se simta instabila, nesigura de propria realitate sau chiar nebuna. Termenul „gaslighting” vine de la filmul cu acelasi nume „Gas Lighting” din 1940 si chiar asa este folosit si in literatura clinica si de specialitate.

Aceasta tehnica de manipulare psihologica este practicata de catre abuzator asupra victimei pe o perioada indelungata de timp, avand ca efect pierderea increderii victimei asupra propriei capacitati de a distinge ce e real de iluzie. In acest mod, abuzatorul („gaslighter” in termeni de specialitate) dobandeste putere si control total asupra victimei, deoarece aceasta isi pune toata increderea numai in perceptia lui.

Acest proces de spalare a creierului se realizeaza treptat, astfel ca victima nu este constienta de ce se intampla. Persoanele care manipuleaza folosindu-se de aceasta tehnica sunt persoane care au, la randul lor, tulburari mentale: abuzatori, psihopati, sociopati, dictatori, narcisisti, lideri de diferite culturi sau auto-proclamatii „guru”. Abuzatorii Gaslighter folosesc urmatoarele tehnici:

Ei mint cu detasare si impertinenta

Este o minciuna evidenta. Tu esti constient(a) de acest lucru si totusi, o fac privindu-te in ochi. De ce sunt asa? Pentru ca scopul lor este ca tu sa devii confuz(a). Vazandu-l pe omul din fata ta ca isi sustine argumentul sau povestea cu atata tarie, incepi sa te intrebi daca nu cumva are, de fapt, dreptate.

Neaga cu vehementa ca ar fi spus sau ar fi facut ceva, in ciuda dovezilor pe care tu le ai. Ti-a spus ca va face un anumit lucru, pe care, ulterior, nu doar ca nu l-a facut, dar neaga ca ar fi spus vreodata ca o va face. Scopul ramane cel de mai sus: ca tu sa devii confuz(a). Treptat, tot fiind supus la asemenea situatii, un om incepe sa se indoiasca de propria sa realitate. Cu cat abuzatorul foloseste mai des aceasta tehnica, cu atat victima devine mai confuza si incepe tot mai tare sa isi piarda increderea in propria perceptie si realitate."

In aceasta poza pe care am pus-o individual, separat, dar o veti regasi si in grupul de screenshot pe care l-am facut conversatiei avute cu ea (cea in care ea a fost pusa de catre RFC, -stiam de el si de nevasta lui ca ei sunt cei care ma copiaza si imi fac rau, la MOMENT respectiva), veti vedea cum incearca sa loveasca in mine, in toata cariera mea (asta dupa ce ei au fost cei care m-au abuzat, ma spionau ilegal, deja in USA si NU m-au lasat sa lucrez si sa imi fac o cariera in New York), prin simpla fraza, citez:" si jobul tau e, pana la urma, o poza".

Deci, citand-o pe ea, de fapt pe ei, RFC si CM (ca totul e mintea lor monstruoasa care au "conceput" asa ceva, furand idei din cartea "fenomenul Pitesti" si fenomenul GASSLIGHT), va intreb pe dvs si pe ei, hotii de vieti si idei: a face poze este un job? a scrie articole sau carti, ce este, un job? a crea haine, ce este, un job? a le prezenta public prin poze facute de fotograf, ce este, un job? ceea ce ea a facut, prezentand moda, ca fotomodel, este un job? Daca ati raspuns cu da la toate aceste intrebari, atunci voi, hotilor, stiti foarte bine ca ceea ce faceti voi NU este un job, ci este un furt; iar ceea ce eu am facut intotdeauna se cheama JOB, PUBLIC, REAL si LEGAL!

Nota:

toate pozele imi apartin si sunt facute de mine; screenshots care privesc viata mea si acest nedorit eveniment care s-a desfasurat si se desfasoara fara acordul meu, si au legatura directa cu ceea ce s-a intamplat, sunt facute de mine si, sunt mai mult decat indreptatita sa le folosesc, deoarece eu NU am fost nici intrebata, nici nu mi s-a cerut acordul pentru ca, o lume intreaga sa intre cu bocancii in viata mea privata.

de asemenea, toate textele de pe acest blog sunt scrise de mine, acolo unde am citat, am indicat sursa, autorul si chiar am pus link unde e cazul si am gasit asa ceva. Nu autorizez pe nimeni, nici sa publice aceste texte, decat distribuirea integrala a articolului de aici, de pe blogul meu, pe paginile de socializare, sau, cu acordul meu explicit; nici sa se inspire, nici sa faca filme sau sa scrie carti despre viata mea.

Cine face asta, fara acordul meu, va fi actionat in instanta, conform drepturilor legale.

Cine doreste sa publice o carte sau sa faca un film despre viata mea, este rugat sa ma contacteze la adresa de email: oanastavilanewyork@gmail.com , aici, sau pe paginile de socializare care, toate sunt cu numele meu real.